Dealing with Rumors

By Nicy B. 

 Some people will never ask for your side of the story. They were already looking for evidence against you and needed anything to confirm their bias. 

Know that people who are willing to believe lies about you already have a narrative they want to think of you as. So there is nothing you can say that will change their mind when they reach their conclusion. 

Some people are determined to misunderstand you constantly. So let them be wrong about you. Your actions will always speak louder than their words, but how they talk about you says more about them than it does you. 

Some people try to rewrite history in some instances because they don't want to be held accountable for their actions. Instead, it's easier to blame you or target you for their frustration with themselves. Not everyone is on their healing journey; some people don't want to have emotional growth. 

In other instances, they envy your energy. They have so much inner pain, and when they see someone have what they want but feel like they can't get - you become the main character in their book. They can't emulate your energy, so they try to dim your light to fill their darkness. 

"Misery likes company." It's not a famous saying for no reason; there is a lot of truth behind the catchphrase. 

When you live in someone's head rent-free, you become their obsession. The best way to deal with these people is not to give them any more access to your life and keep it minimal. It should subdue them when they don't have anything new to talk about. Some could attempt to get more personal information but understand it's okay to do what is necessary to protect yourself, such as avoiding contact, clearly setting boundaries, blocking them on social media, etc. 

It sounds easier to go out and clear your name; however, it will cause more damage and add more fuel to the fire. The best thing to do is let rumors fizzle out and remind yourself you are not the rumor. Whoever chooses to believe it and not clarify is not your friend nor someone you want near you. You want people who are secure in themselves to not negatively project themself onto you and be confident in you and their relationship with you.